Friday, December 31, 2010


I don’t usually make New Year’s resolutions.  I have commitment issues.  Making a promise to follow through on almost anything strikes real fear into the heart of this Smart Mouth(ed) Broad.  I’ve been married for 30 years.  What more do you want?   I like to win.  And making a resolution always ends with a failure, at least in my experience, more often than not within three thirty days.

2010 has not been the best of years.  I think the economy and society’s refusal to recognize my QUEENDOM has taken its toll on all of us.  But I am nothing if not a cock-eyed optimist.  I like to hope for the best and expect the worst……so that I’m never disappointed.  Cock-eyed, I tell ya. 
So this year I’m lowering my expectations.  Baby steps.  Here are my New Year’s resolutions for 2011.
  1. I resolve not to gain any weight.  For years I’ve been trying to lose the equivalent of a 4 year old child.  Here’s to hoping that 2012 doesn’t have me lugging around (= to) a six year old.
  2. I will stop myself from making promises that I can’t possibly keep.  i.e, “I will blog words of wisdom every single day of my 50th year.”  You didn’t believe that, did you?
  3. I will read more books.  The Bible, trashy novels, spy novels, self-help books.  I will finish reading Eat, Pray, Love.  I am lolly-gagging for sure on this one.  I absolutely adore this woman author.  I feel a strong kinship.  The problem is that a dear friend of mine told me that once you get past “eat”, It all goes downhill….or is it uphill?  Whatever…it’s not so good.  So I'm lingering.  I’m savoring every word of the “eat” section.  I might even finish in 2011 if I pick up the pace just a bit.
  4. I will drink the occasional martini.  Dirty.  With 3 olives.  Shaken, not stirred.  Hey, I’m 49+1 now.  Martinis are soooooooo grown up.  But writing “soooooooo” really isn’t, is it?
  5. I will wine a lot.  It makes me feel better. 
  6. I will eat no less some cookies.
  7. I will cherish the “little moments” and enjoy the journey.  Sometimes, I get all caught up working toward and anticipating the big stuff.  A little older, a little wiser now, I realize that it’s the little moments that make all the difference. 
  8. I will spend more time doing things that give me pleasure.   Get your mind out of the gutter, people. 
  9. I will spend less time worrying.   I spend a good deal of time worrying.  No more.
  10. I will find time to read more of my favorite blogs.  I miss you guys.  I miss knowing what is happening with your lives.  I will not let it become my life.  Balance.  Balance.  Balance.  That is the key. 
  11. In 2011, I will strive for balance.  Wish me luck.  History has proven this to be a real challenge for me. 
Ladies and Gentlemen of the blogosphere, I raise my glass to you.  You are some of the best, most interesting, caring and talented people I’ve ever (not) met. 

Happy New Year, Ya’ll!
May all your dreams come true.

Love and Kisses,

Wednesday, December 29, 2010


The Talk
I can’t help myself.  I have a girl crush on every single one of these ladies.  I’ve never recorded a talk show on my DVR (formerly known as Tivo) before now.  Oh sure, I recorded an Oprah here or there if there was some “can’t miss” topic or guest.  I loved Regis and Kathie Lee and then Regis and Kelly even more but I have never recorded the program.

The talk is touted as a “Mom” show.  While each of these women are indeed mothers, they collectively and individually bring so much more than motherhood to the table.  They discuss things that apply to all of our lives.  They aren’t too political.  They aren’t too professional.  They are fun.  They are interesting.  They are real.

You know that old dinner conversation topic, “Who would you invite (dead or alive) to a dinner party if you could have any guest you choose?  I have my set of people who I would invite.  But now……. I want an another dinner party, Scratch that….make it a luncheon with just these gals.

If you haven’t had a chance to check out “The Talk”, go now and set your DVR or better yet, check your local listing and watch it live.   I’ll wait………………

*****fingers tapping*****

OK, great!  Tomorrow, grab your beverage of choice and sit down a spell for a nice break with some new girlfriends. You’ll be glad that you did.  And I’m not just talking to the girls here.  My Harley Stud would never admit it, but let me tell you, when these ladies talk, he listens.  Or maybe he is just looking at cleavage but whatever… they grab his attention.

I wish that I could watch it live but that pesky thing called a job always gets in the way.  If you have the opportunity to watch live,  you can join in the interaction via facebook and/or twitter if you are so inclined.

Don’t forget.  Watch.
Hugs and Kisses, Smile


Disclaimer:  I have in no way been compensated for my glowing review of this program.  I am not related to any person working on or in affiliation with The Talk.  I just love it.  And you will too.  Money back guaranteed!  And if you don’t love it too……What do you know anyway!

Monday, December 27, 2010




Christmas has come and gone.  I can’t believe it.  Wasn’t it just October yesterday?  Is this a symptom of being 49+1?  Time flies when your knees pop and crack? 

As for the SMB household, we had a wonderful Christmas filled with love and laughter.  Daddy and Daisy left this morning.  I’m always sad to see them go.  The house is quiet tonight as My Harley Stud and I sit enjoying the fire, our bellies full of warm soup and good bread.  I just love the coziness of a quiet night at home.  What makes it cozy for me?  

  • a fire in the fireplace
  • a favorite throw over my legs
  • a glass of good wine (or two)
  • MHS
  • lots of pillows
  • a good book

What makes “cozy” for you?  Have you thought about it?  Find your cozy spot.  And enjoy it.  After all the craziness of the holiday, these are my “Words of Wisdom” for you. 




Love and Kisses,


Thursday, December 23, 2010


………and as it turns out, I  AM the Queen of EVERYTHING.  The problem is that not everyone acknowledges that fact. (Another problem I will have to address in the New Year)  Nevertheless if I were properly recognized as Her Royal Highness, a few things would be different around here at Christmas time:



  1. 1.  “I have to finish my Christmas shopping.”  would be considered a legitimate excuse for a paid day off from work.
  2. 2.  Christmas cookies would have no calories.
  3. 3.  No cancer.  No cancer ever but cancer at Christmas is just WRONG.
  4. 4.  World peace.  Smile
  5. A lack of simple common courtesy, such as “please”, “thank you” and “excuse me”, would be punishable by death….or at the very least dismemberment.   
  6. Christmas traffic would part like the Red Sea to allow the Queen to pass. 
  7. Santa would lend the use of all his elves so that the Queen’s shopping, cleaning, baking, packing, wrapping, shipping (Yes, thank you very much, I do know that it is now too late for much of this. Dear Sister, expect a New Years package.) would be done in time to enjoy HUGE amounts of Christmas cheer. 
  8. Fireplaces in every home.  Fires make things so much more cozy.  (And so much easier for Santa.  Winking smile)
  9. Peppermint Mochas all around.
  10. Last but certainly not least, The Queen DEMANDS that you all:



Tuesday, December 21, 2010


                                                          …….PEOPLE KEEP REMINDING ME

My good friend, Janie, aka Midlife Slices, says that I’ve been mentioning my age a lot.  As previously stated, I’m having a bit of a hard time with this particular birthday.  Maybe it’s because I’ve always been the youngest of my friends for the most part.  In school, I hung out with older kids a lot.  I’m also the baby of the family.  My siblings were 12, 13 and 17 when I was born.  They were really more like extra parents than siblings until I was an adult.  I’m supposed to be the young one!  Combine these facts with a chronic case of PeterPanitis (I WON’T GROW UP!) and you have a 50 year old woman in denial.

So when Janie commented that I sure was mentioning my age a lot, I decided that I’m going to forget about it.  I’m going to carry on like I’m only 49.  You know, because I don’t look a day older than 49 according to my lucky she’s not dead coworker.

And then today, I get not one but two reminders that I am indeed 49+1:
  1. My brother, Smitty, called and left me a message.  He wanted me to know that he just got his first social security check.   He could have left it at that.  He could have left me feeling all young and smug because I’m AGES away from collecting social security.  But NO, he couldn’t leave well enough alone.  He added, “And WOW!  You’re fifty now.  I remember when you were in diapers!” 
  2. Then my cousin called to see if I had any more grey hair!  Stupid, stupid man!  I pay good money to make sure that NEVER happens!  PS.  Dear, stupid cousin is two years older than I am and has no room to poke fun. 
My WORDS OF WISDOM for they day:  Never tell a fifty year old woman how old she is.  She spends a good deal of her day finding ways to convince herself otherwise which may or may not involve multiple glasses of wine. 

Lie to me.  Tell me I’m young and beautiful.  Never mention my age.  Bring dark chocolate and good red wine and no one gets hurt. 

Sorry, I’m a little P(M)iSsy today.

Hugs and Kisses,

Monday, December 20, 2010



Christmas Shopping

We’ve discussed the importance of spending quality time with our loved ones and not getting caught up in the hustle and bustle of the season.  Well forget that crap!  There’s only 5 more shopping days ‘til Christmas.  Now get out there and boost the economy!

If you need me, I’ll be at the mall.


Love and Kisses,


Sunday, December 19, 2010


shopping bags


Here’s a great shopping tip for your Holiday Mega Savings.  And who doesn’t like to save?

Before all the hustle and bustle, the guzzling of peppermint mochas and trips to the ATM, it is WISE to sit for a minute and make a plan.  I’m the absolute WORST when it comes to making a plan.  Really.  I’m a total fly by the seat of your pants kind of girl.  So if I can do this, anyone can. 

  1. Think about what stores you will shop today.
  2. Google “*insert store name* coupon.”
  3. Print the coupons.
  4. And off you go. 
  5. Don’t forget the peppermint mocha.

I printed two of the same coupon this morning before leaving home.  Not only was I able to double my savings by using the same coupon twice but I even called Daughter #2 to email me another one and used it again.  I simply showed the clerk the coupon on my phone and VOILA:  Another $30 savings.  By simply googling for a coupon before my shopping trip, I saved $90 more than I would have if I were couponless.  And couponless is no place to be. 

Have a merry Christmas and Happy shopping!


Love and Kisses,


Friday, December 17, 2010


I  was cleaning the kitchen this morning when I received a text message from a good friend who lives about an hour South of me.  She said that she had a doctor appointment in my neck of the woods and asked if I wanted to meet for breakfast when she finished at approximately 9.  It was 8:30.  I was still in my jams, neither hair nor teeth were brushed and no make-up.  I had a long list of to-dos to get ready for Christmas.  My tree has been up for over a week and still isn’t decorated.  My house is in serious need of a visit from the cleaning fairy.  I have White Trash, Cinnamon Pecans and cookies to make.  I haven’t really begun to shop for gifts.  I have a pile of laundry to do after being away last weekend.  And I had this blog post to write.  (I did promise hope to write something every single day of this year.)
So of course I begged off stating that I had too much to do and promised to make sure that we get together soon, right?   NO WAY!  I quickly thanked her for the “heads up” (Where is my sarcasm font?) and said I’m on my way.

Fortunately, I showered before bed last night.  I pulled a pair of jeans out of the dirty clothes hamper (Don’t judge, people.  It’s not like I slopped hogs in them.) and put them in the dryer with a damp towel for 10 minutes.  While the jeans were de-wrinkling, I brushed my teeth, ran a curling iron over the ends of my hair and slapped on some make-up. I managed to find a clean sweater and the required Christmas necklace.   I retrieved my jeans, looking good as new by the way, put them on and was out the door. 

I enjoyed a wonderful breakfast with a dear friend that lasted 3 1/2 hours.  (We had a lot to catch up on.)  On my way home, I decided to get my pedicure out of the way.  My Harley Stud called in the middle of my pedicure and asked if I wanted to ride along to Vero Beach where he had to visit a customer.  I finally made it back home at 7pm.   And so the to-do list crashed and burned.

One of my favorite Bible stories (because balancing priorities seems to be a problem for me) is the one where Jesus comes to visit Lazarus’ two sisters, Mary and Martha.  While Martha is busy preparing food, cleaning up and making sure that her distinguished guest has the best of every THING they have to offer, Mary sits with Jesus and visits with him.  She listens to his stories and enjoys his company all while Martha is slaving away in the kitchen (none too happy that she isn’t getting help from her sister.)  The moral of the story, of course, is that it is much more important to fellowship and love one another.  Who cares if the house is clean!
This year I’m going to have a merry Mary Christmas.  And I hope that you do too. Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, the lesson should not be lost.  Shouldn’t we all be sure to make time to make time with our loved ones at Christmas and all throughout the year?
How crazy is your holiday?  Will you have  a Mary Christmas or a Martha Christmas? 

Thursday, December 16, 2010


Dear Young Chickie that Works under my Supervision and has no Idea that a Woman who just turned 50 is a little on edge and this one in particular owns a GUN:

Next time you decide to attempt to lavish me with compliments; dig a little deeper.  Use your imagination for pity sake. 

Your loving and gracious office manager.

Now get the hell out of my office before I ………. I ………well, I oughtta …..

angry old lady
(Fifty + 4 days)

Allow me to paint the picture for you:

Yesterday before leaving the office, I got out my paint palate, a brush and some hairspray and headed for the ladies room.  I explained that I was meeting Daughter #1 at the mall and that you never know who you might run into at the mall.  “I don’t want anyone to think I’ve let myself go.”

Young Oblivious Coworker says, “It’s not like you’re Fif……..ty.”   She tried to stop in time but it was too late.  It was already out there. 


The left eyebrow was raised in her direction.  The sneer became impossible to conceal.  The hair was standing up at the back of my neck.  There was some gnashing of teeth.

1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.   Deep breathes. Deep breathes.

I finally stopped hyperventilating and continued on to the ladies room.  That's when I heard:

"If it makes you feel any better, I still think you look 49."


There's a good reason I leave my gun at home locked in a safe.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010




(Fifty+3 days)

There is a disturbing trend that has reared its ugly head in the last few decades or so.  I’m no parenting expert nor do I hold a psychology degree but with almost twenty six years of parenting experience, I do have something to say on the topic.  It is merely my opinion but I think we can all agree:  ……I’m right.

Some parents believe it’s acceptable and even wise to teach their little darlings to call private parts of the body by their real, anatomical names.  Big mistake. HUGE! 

There’s a very good reason why I disagree with this practice:  I never wanted to hear Daughter #1 or #2 tell a woman in the supermarket, “I have a v_______.  Do you have one too?”  And I can guarantee you, that phrase or something equally mortifying would have come out of their cute little mouths. 

Personally, at 50 years old, I’m still not comfortable using the “p” word referring to a man’s (what my mother taught us was a) “fella”.  So if I can’t say it myself, I sure don’t want to hear it out of the mouth of a four year old. 

So what did I use instead?  Not really the creative sort, I stuck with “pee pee” for both a girl’s and a boy’s …….well….. pee pee.  I couldn’t bring myself to use my mother’s “fella" because every time I heard someone say they were bringing their “fella” home to meet the parents, I got a completely different mental picture.  Sometimes I refer to it as the ever-popular “thing”.   And then of course there are the bottom and the boobies. 

So dear readers, if you have young children in your life, please restrain yourself from using the “proper” body part names.  There’s plenty of time for them to learn those words.  For now, let’s all be cute and fun and say words like “hoohah” and “fella”. 

Let’s all agree to agree with SMB.  Nothing good can come of doing otherwise.  Listen to me and the world will be a kinder, gentler place. 


Love and Kisses,


Tuesday, December 14, 2010


I worked 12 1/2 hours today so we’re going to keep this short and sweet.  Today’s life lesson is:
Never skip your dentist appointment, your mammogram or your pedicure.  Great teeth, healthy boobs and pretty feet should be priority in life.  Make it happen.

Love and Kisses,

Sunday, December 12, 2010


F+1  Tip:  Always carry a mirror.  And use it.


I was thirteen when my grandfather died and my grandmother came to live with us.  After sharing several meals with my dear grandma, it became quite apparent that she had no feeling in her chin.  The woman always had food on her face.  As a young Smart Mouth Broad, I had plenty of comments on the subject.  All of said comments were kept to myself so as to keep my teeth intact. (She had a cane and knew how to use it.)  I would sit and wonder at how in the world she could have that big glop of gravy on her chin and not seem to notice.  Was there an age when it suddenly became acceptable to have mustard on your face?  A geriatric fashion statement, perhaps? 

A few decades later, my mother starting exhibiting signs of loss of sensation of her chin.  Always a stickler for proper etiquette, a napkin was always at the ready and eventually she would wipe her mouth and remove the goo from her face.  But still I marveled at how she didn’t seen to notice there was anything there.   After all, I could always feel when excess mayonnaise escaped from my sandwich onto my chin.  Sometimes I put it there just to be sure.

Recently my own children, who never hesitate to notify me of anything that could cause potential embarrassment….for them, have started gesturing to me to wipe my chin.  Fifty FLIPPIN’ years old and already I’ve lost all feeling in my chin!  I haven’t even gone through menopause yet! 

There appears to be an elephant in the room that no one wants to mention.  We hear all about loss of hearing, memory and eyesight.  We know that we lose the hair we want and grow it back in places we don’t.  You can’t turn on the television without hearing about arthritis pain, bone loss and high blood pressure.  But no one and I mean NO ONE is talking about chin sensory loss. 

To my knowledge, there is no pill, no lotion, no potion, no 12 step program to avoid, repair or cure Mayonnaise on the Chin Syndrome.  Therefore my words of wisdom today are:  Carry a mirror.  Never leave home without it. 


Love and Kisses,



Happy 50th birthday
The big day has finally arrived and as you read this, I’m probably still in bed with the covers pulled over my head, curled into a fetal position saying, “I don’t want to grow up!  I don’t want to grow up!”  But grow up, I must, or so they tell me. 

For the sake of humanity and the smell of Peppermint Mocha, I will crawl out of bed.  I will put on my big girl panties and suck it up.  I will soldier on armed with fuzzy socks and a very large glass of wine.  And I will do this for you.  Yes, YOU! 

It occurred to me over the past few weeks while searching for meaning and purpose in my life that the title of this blog promises “words of  wisdom” and it’s high time I start delivering the merchandise.  And so a plan started to develop:

As the self-appointed QUEEN OF EVERYTHING, I am quite certain that I do……know it ALL!  And what I don’t know, I am more than happy to make up.  It is in this spirit that I wish for you to benefit from my wisdom, my experience and my general knowitalliness.  I hereby  swear   promise   plan   hope to post a tidbit of wisdom here every day of my 50th year. (And before someone smarty points it out, I already know that it is technically my 51st year.  GEESH, you are pushing my buttons!”)  It is my hope that you will come to rely on these pages as your go-to source for life rules.  It will be a sacrifice, sure.  My family will once again grow accustomed to being ignored while I compose little pearls of wisdom for the “masses”.  Not to worry.  I live only to serve. 

What?  You don’t think you can take life advice from a woman who whispers to goats and will believe in Santa Claus until the day she dies?  SHUT UP!  I CANNOT handle turning fifty and rejection too! You just keep those thoughts to yourself and I will continue to live in the dream.  Listen!  I need purpose here, people!  This is the deal:  I post the gems that are truly words to live by and you continue to pretend to follow my advice and nobody gets hurt.  OK?

Stay tuned for the first life lesson tomorrow.  What?  You thought I was going to give you a tip today?  Forget that.  It’s my birthday.  I’m taking the day off. 

Love and Kisses,

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Technical Difficulties

I can't seem to get my banner photograph to stretch across the entire page.   I've done this a thousand times but those same steps aren't working today,  Any suggestions?

Tuesday, December 7, 2010


…….OR BITE ME – (You choose.)


I’m about to “celebrate” a big birthday.  Yeah….THAT one.  And so far, I’m not dealing with the idea very well.  I’ve never been one to be bothered by the passing of another age milestone: 

Thirty?  I was THRIVING.  Didn’t phase me.

Forty?  Lordy, this is fun.  Bring it on.

But FIFTY?  In the last few months, the decline in my physical, mental and emotional well-being is snow-balling at a break-my flippin’-neck pace.  The eye-sight is going fast.  Everything hurts.  And I hear they are planning to give my arse its own zip code soon.

I guess part of the problem is that as Martina McBride would say, “Every morning when I drink my coffee, I can’t believe my life has turned out this way.”  That’s not to say that I’m not blessed.  Certainly I am.  And by contrast, when I compare my life to some, I admit that I feel a little ashamed of myself for whining.  But whining and/or wining makes me feel better, Dammick! 

As the self-appointed Queen of Everything, one might think that I would be above such triviality.  It’s really just a number after all.  But it’s  a really BIG number.   Waaaaaaaa.

I’ve never been one to make a plan.  In fact, bad things happen when I make plans, so I just don’t make them. I choose to live my life by the seat of my pants.  I play it by ear.  I go with the flow.  Whichever way the wind blows me.  I really hope you get the idea here because I seem to be out of clichés.  (And I never thought that could happen.)

I’m afraid that my lack of planning has left me feeling that I have lived without purpose.  Could it be that I was meant to do more than spread good cheer and nonsense wherever I go?  Is this it?  I mean after half a century, I should be able to look back and say, “WOW!  Look at all I’ve accomplished!”   Is it too late to take stock?  Perhaps a nice midlife crisis would do the trick but I don’t have time for that!   

I have to do something……even if it’s wrong.  Surely there is something I can do that will put me on the path to self fulfillment and enlightenment.  I’ve listed some possibilities:

  • I could run away and join the circus.  I’m pretty sure I would make a really great trapeze artist.  (Do those costumes come in extra large?)
  • I could join the Peace Corps.  (Except I heard they send you to countries that have no cheese!)
  • I’ve given serious consideration to becoming an alcoholic but I keep forgetting to keep drinking after one glass of wine. 
  • I could move to the beach and sell velvet Elvis paintings by the shore.  (a life-long dream of mine)
  • CIA?  Covert Operative?  I AM an excellent markswoman.   I could do great things with a sniper rifle and work out my midlife frustrations at the same time.  Nah, I can never keep a secret.  *sigh* 

Will SMB survive the BIG ONE?  Stay tuned. 

Wednesday, December 1, 2010


Change I’ve been absent from these pages for far too long.  The simple truth is that I didn’t feel that I had anything of any interest to say.  That’s about to change.  If there is anyone still out there, stay tuned.  If I don’t get hit by a bus between now and two weeks  ten days  awhile from now, you’re going to be seeing a lot more of me. 

I miss you.  And besides that, I just got a new laptop and feel the need to get my money's worth.  *wink*

Thursday, November 25, 2010

To You and Yours

.....From Me and Mine

Have a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY!  May it be filled with all the things that make you happy, content and feeling blessed.

Love and Hugs,

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

With Heartfelt Gratitude

My Harley Stud and I spent last Saturday morning with The Rocket Scientist and The Trophy Wife at the Navy Seal Museum in Ft. Pierce.  The museum hosts a Veteran’s Day weekend ceremony every year and we always try to make it when we can. 

I am so proud to be American and so very grateful for those who risk and sometimes sacrifice their lives for our freedom.  It is my prayer that we might have world peace sooner rather than later.  It’s really very simple.  No hate.  No wars.  Let’s all get together for beer and chocolate chip cookies.  I’m pretty sure that would do it. 

The museum puts on a very impressive show.  Ya’ll come along.  I’ll show you.


I don’t know how they do it but every year they “jump out of  a perfectly good airplane” and land where they are supposed to land.  I guess all that Navy Seal training really works. 

DSC05052 A simulated anti-terrorist mission in action.  The museum is on the beach.  I always wonder what the people who live in the condos next door must think when helicopters fly by their windows shooting.  Wouldn’t that just make you drop your spoon back in your oatmeal!


Under orders from President Franklin Pierce, Lt. Col. Benjamin Pierce, his brother, was sent to what we now know as Ft. Pierce to set up an army base during the second Seminole War.  The site later became the training ground for the Navy Frogmen.  The Frogman eventually became a Navy Seal, today’s elite warrior.  Training to become a Navy Seal requires nothing short of super-human strength and determination.  I’m told that a well-known men’s magazine recently listed the worst things a man can do to his body:

#1 was crack cocaine.  #3 was crystal meth.  And #2 (worse than meth) is hell week at BUDS.  (The training school for Navy Seals)

 DSC05061 Something new at the museum:  The Memorial Wall. 

It is virtually impossible to stand at this wall and not shed a tear.  Ask anyone. 



My new favorite Navy Seal, Arras.  A four-legged Seal!  Who knew?

Arras and his handler are awaiting orders for deployment to Iraq, Afghanistan or?  Arras is a multi-tasker.  He can detect a bomb but also doubles as an attack dog.  And he looks so sweet, doesn’t he?  Don’t let that purdy face fool you. 


MHS and I in front of the MV Maersk Alabama

I’m sure you all remember the story of the MV Maersk Alabama hijacking by Somali pirates in April 2009.  Navy Seal snipers came to the rescue doing what they do best.  Captain Richard Phillips has the US Navy and specifically, the SEALS to thank for saving his life. 

A few years ago, I had the honor of meeting Marcus Luttrell, author of Lone Survivor.  In a book that every American should read, Marcus tells of his experience during Operation Redwing.  When I thanked him for his service to our country, he very humbly replied, “I was just doing my job.  It’s the only thing I’m good at.”

And once again, the reason for this post:  Never forget.


As for me and mine, we would like to thank all those that serve and have served in the United States armed forces. 

May God bless you and your families all the days of your lives.

Friday, October 29, 2010


……aka EllieMae Clampett goes to the Big City

from the 102nd floor of the Empire State Building
I received a call from my boss last month while out of town to provide moral support for Daddy while he had knee surgery.  She asked if I would like to tag along on her trip to New York City.  She was going for a conference but my coworker and I would have 3 1/2 days to play in the city.  Ummmm, let me think a minute………not just YES but Heck YES!

                 Radio City Music Hall
This was my second trip to NYC and even though I haven’t spent a lot of time there, it is my most favorite city.  If someone ever offers to take you on an all expenses paid trip to New York City, pack your bags and get yourself to the airport, PRONTO!  Better yet, just say, “No, take SMB instead.”

My travel companions were both native New Yorkers so I was treated to do whatever I wanted to do as they had both seen it all before.  What I know about New York, I learned from the movies.  For instance, Jack (Nicholas Cage) in The Family Man taught me that there is nothing like a warm bialy and a cup of coffee from Dean and Deluca.  Unfortunately, I will never know as they were fresh out of bagels and bialies when I was there.  I was told that has never happened before.  No worries.  They still had coffee and muffins.

I really wanted to have the frozen hot chocolate at Serendipity (and hopefully run into John Cusack) but by the time Saturday evening rolled around, that little treat got bumped off the agenda in favor of lounging in our hotel room and watching FSU football and the Yankees baseball game.  Yeah, we’re quite the party animals.

I had big plans to win the Ambush Makeover but apparently you have to get there long before 9am.  Who knew?  The Today Show waits for no one!  Not even SMB.  

Pseudo of Winds of Change sent me a message while I was there.  She asked her readers to make recommendations and give travel tips to me.  I was able to read her blog on my phone so I received tips on the go.  Pseudo suggested that I try the Stage Deli.  I had no idea where the restaurant was but Friday afternoon found me wandering the streets of New York by myself as my coworker was a bit “fluish”.   After my solo adventure, I planned to stop by a pizza place near the hotel and grab a slice and take it back to the room to check on my sick friend.  Lo and behold, right across the street from the pizza place (and indirectly  across from our hotel) was the Stage Deli!  I couldn’t resist.  I sat at the bar by myself (like a big girl) and enjoyed a Kevin Bacon, Lettuce and Tomato sandwich with a Brooklyn Lager and it only set me back $22.  Did I mention that everything is more expensive in New York?  No one cares……….BECAUSE IT’S MANHATTAN, BABY!

My photograph of St. Patrick’s Cathedral doesn’t even come close to doing it justice.  To say it was beautiful is such an understatement.  There are no words.  And yet…..I go on.

My boss knew that St. Patrick’s was on my to-do list and as we walked past it on our way from getting breakfast Sunday morning, she asked if I had seen it yet.  I said that I had.  I told her that I had taken some pictures.  She asked if we had gone inside.  When I told her that we had not, she said, “Come on, let’s go.”  I began to follow her all the while protesting.  “It’s Sunday!  They’re having mass.  We can’t just walk in there now.”

She rolled her eyes at me and said, “It’s a church.  You’re always welcome there.”  And in we went.  (with our coffee and bagels)  She was right, of course.  It wasn’t to be missed.  It was truly magnificent!  The fact that mass was being held only added to its beauty.  I wish I had a picture.  You just have to go.  That’s all there is to it.  I had to thank her afterward for forcing me to go inside.  I’m so glad I didn’t miss it.  And isn’t it just a little bit funny that it took a Jew to remind me, a Christian, that you’re always welcome at church?

……….and from church, we’ll jump to that Times Square icon:  The Naked Cowboy!

If I lived in Manhattan, I would be even more broke than I am now.  I would spend all my money on theatre tickets…….and coffee….and wine.  After all, woman can not live on entertainment alone.  I LOVE live theatre.  Any live performance really.  I love anything from a high school production to a Broadway play.  And no trip to New York is complete without theatre tickets!  This trip was no exception and tickets were purchased for:

We had a lovely pre-show dinner at Carmine’s (another don’t miss it or you’ll be sorry) followed by what’s this?

A Tweet-up with AuntChrisBronx!  

I met Chris on Twitter, if you can believe that.  It never ceases to amaze me how such wonderful friendships are formed in the interwebs.We’ve been friends for almost two years now.  I only got to see her for  few minutes before we had to go into the theatre but I’m so glad we got to meet and hug.  And isn’t she BEAUTIFUL!  

Promises, Promises is fabulous!  We all LOVED IT!  You couldn’t wipe the smile from our faces for at least 24 hours after seeing this amazing display of talent!  I got a great tip from some friends who had been to the play earlier this year.  They told us just where to wait to get photos and autographs after the show.  And that’s just what we did.

Sean Hayes of Wil and Grace fame.  He was GREAT!
  DSC04855      Tony Goldwyn from Ghost and Kiss the Girls.  In Promises, Promises, he plays the guy you love to hate too.
And Kristin Chenoweth!  She is no bigger than a minute but that voice is HUGE!        LOVE her!
I’m pretty sure there’s a marriage proposal in the works here.  (If not, I’ll always think there should have been.)
Famous fountain from 27 Dresses, et al.

  We were in NY for John Lennon’s  70th birthday.  There were crowds of people singing Imagine in the Park at his memorial.  The above photos are of his apartment building where Yoko Ono still lives.  She has three apartments up there when the balcony is.  (or so we were told by our bicycle cabbie, Ozzy)  He was shot in front of the building between the two planters.
It was encouraging to see the progress at Ground Zero.
They’re ice skating in Rockefeller Center already.  It’s against security rules to take pictures of the Zamboni guy.  ……like that’s going to stop me.
We walked quite a long way to get to the Empire State Building from our hotel but it was worth it!
DSC04953             I guess this is what you might call:  A Bird’s Eye View?

Now don’t you want to go to New York too?  Go on!  Just do it! 
And take me with you. 

Monday, October 25, 2010

Baby Steps

SUMMER 2009 PRESS TOUR And Oh baby!

I’m still not sure what my plans are where this blog is concerned but there are tiny wheels spinning in my tiny brain.  A small seed was planted.  We’ll see if it grows.  And that’s all I’m going to say about that.

So what does all this have to do with Mr. Take Me, I’m Yours over there in the photo?  I thought I would just dip my toes into the blogging waters and see how it feels getting them wet again.  And so I give you, Exhibit A:

My Harley Stud and I record a lot of programs on our dvr.  More than any two people with full time jobs, a business to run, a yard to mow, a house to keep and a kitchen to remodel (Don’t get me started) could possibly watch.  Even so, we continue to record and occasionally even sit down to watch some of these programs.  Case in point: NCIS, Los Angeles.
MHS knows this is a favorite of mine.  While he is a bigger fan of the original NCIS, the Los Angeles version is recorded for me.  Today while watching said program, MHS inquired how I’m able to work on the computer and keep up with all the adventure and mayhem showing on the screen.  I looked at him with my best, “Silly man, don’t question my SUPERPOWERS look” and replied that I am a master at multi-tasking.  He just shook his head in confusion.

TRUE CONFESSION:  I have no idea what is going on with that program.  Are these people in the military?  Are they civilians?  What purpose do they really serve?  The truth is:  I just like to look at that adorable Chris ODonnell and watch his lips move.

Let’s just keep this between us, OK?

Wednesday, October 13, 2010


 That is the question.

 What there is no question about is that I have been neglecting you.  I haven’t    been writing.  I haven’t been reading.  You may not miss me or even realize that I’ve been gone.  And some may even be relieved to see one less item in their reader’s to-do list.  Nevertheless, I’m experiencing that twinge of guilt you have when you realize that you haven’t spoken to an old friend for too long.  Do you break the awkward silence or just put it off for another day until it seems almost impossible to reconnect?

 I am a really bad friend.  I’m loyal to a fault.  You lie?  I’ll swear by it.  Land your butt in jail?  I’ll bail you out.  Have schmutz on your face?  I’ll let you know right after I take a picture and post it on facebook.  But should you be even the slightest bit needy, you probably want to keep looking before befriending this slacker.  My only lasting relationships thrive on neglect.

That being said, I’ve been floundering.  I’ve been avoiding this place because I am stressed out, lazy, very busy sticking my head in the sand  lack direction.  I’m not really sure exactly what I was thinking when I created this blog other than I found myself with spare time and a desire to write.  I had no idea that I would find friendship in this interwebby world.  But it was friendship I found.  And I cherish those relationships.   I miss having the time to get around and read all the fabulous blogs that I love, not to mention catch up on what my friends are doing.

We all know that this blogging business is a give and take.  My problem is that finding the time to write anything is getting harder and harder.  And finding the time to read all the blogs in my reader……IMPOSSIBLE.

So this is me …… telling you ……. I’m sorry for neglecting you.  I miss you.  I love you.  I’ve sort of fallen and can’t get up.  I’m not sure what’s going to happen in these pages.  They may be abandoned for a long time or forever.  Or who knows, I may be inspired tomorrow and bounce right back.

No matter what, know for sure that I think of you often.

Smart Mouth Broad

Monday, September 13, 2010


Ipod Classic with 160GB to hold all the music, tv programs, movies, podcasts and audiobooks your little heart desires - $249.00

Enjoying a pedicure by your favorite salon tech with eyes closed,   relaxing and listening to a great audiobook on above-mentioned ipod - $22.00

Dropping the beloved ipod into the tub of soapy foot water – DEVASTATING

Realizing that I may have just experienced the most expensive pedicure ever - AGGRAVATING

Spending the next two days alternating ipod between bowls of rice, and resting on the DVR to soak up all the heat; wishing, hoping and willing the darn thing to live  – FRUSTRATING

Returning home from work today to find she was only taking a nap.  It’s a miracle!  She lives! - PRICELESS

Monday, August 30, 2010


One of my numerous SUPERPOWERS is my photographic memory.  You’ve heard of people with photographic memories, right?  There are individuals who live and breathe among us who have the ability to remember everything they see.  They can look at a page in a book and remember what it said……forever.   They can remember the license plate number on the get-away car.  Grocery list? No problem.  And if you can sit next to one in the casino, you’re a sure WINNAH!
Yeah, well…..that’s not the kind of photographic memory that I have.  My SUPERPOWER is slightly off-kilter.  My photographic memory is more literal.  I remember every photograph I’ve ever seen…….and nothing else.  *sigh*

I may not be that helpful at a crime scene but this special gift of mine has come in handy …..and then it backfires.  For instance:

I was once on a plane and spotted a man that I was sure I had seen before.  Does that happen to you?  You see someone who you know looks familiar but you can’t quite place where you know them from.  It drove me crazy.  I spent the entire flight trying to figure out if he worked in my office building.  Maybe he was a sales rep that visits my office.  Maybe he was one of my husband’s customers.   Maybe he was the fish guy at Publix.  Did we go to the same church?
Finally during a lay-over in the Atlanta airport restroom, I saw an adorable, blonde haired, blue eyed little girl with her mom.  They had on these really cute, Mommy and Me, Lilly Pulitzer dresses.  And that’s when it hit me.
They were the wife and daughter of the the guy who owns the pizza place in my neighborhood.  It was the Pizza Guy on the plane.  Just a few days earlier, I had stood at the counter waiting to pay for our pizza and admired the photograph on the wall of the wife and daughter.  I was so relieved to have figured out who the guy on the plane was. I strutted right out of the ladies room and walked over to the waiting husband/father/pizza guy and told him how I had figured it all out.  As he eyed me carefully while watching for his family, it didn’t even occur to me that it might seem slightly creepy that I recognized his family from a snapshot on the pizza wall.  Hey, can I help it that I have SUPERPOWERS?

And then:

I received a message on facebook a few months ago from an old elementary school friend.  He moved to Florida just before we made the jump to middle school.  He heard that MHS and I now live in his neck of the woods and wanted to get together some time.  I was overwhelmed with work, MHS’s business and life in general and promptly blew him off promised to make a plan in the future. 

Yesterday while leaving our local bagel place, I held the door for a woman, teenage girl and man who were mysteriously familiar to me.  It wasn’t until they were getting in the car that I realized I knew them from facebook pictures.  It was my childhood friend.  I felt a little foolish chasing down his car so instead I later sent him a message asking if he had been at the same bagel place that morning.  He had.

I didn’t bother to explain that the only reason I recognized him was because he was with the same people who are in his profile pictures.  I am nothing if not a fast learner.  We’ll just keep my slightly creepy, somewhat stalkerish photographic memorific SUPERPOWERS between you and me.

Friday, August 6, 2010



After all these years of searching for the perfect weight loss plan, I’ve finally found it.  Are ya’ll ready for this?

Gilmore Girls, ice cream and coffee.

Allow me to explain.

Daughter #2 had a tonsillectomy last Thursday.  We were warned in advance and every day since when I call the doctor to question a new development that the healing process for an adult is much harder and takes much longer than when the very same procedure is performed on a child.  No one seems to be able to explain why but I am here to tell you it is true.  The poor thing is 8 days out and still suffering quite a bit.  I’m still sleeping with her as she has to have medication during the night and I’m the designated nurse. 

*Let’s all take a moment of silence to pray for poor D2 who must not only suffer through the pain but also my sorely lacking nursing skills.*

So D2 and I are doing some serious bonding while we lie in bed watching all seven seasons of Gilmore Girls, eat ice cream and drink coffee.  Well…..I’m drinking coffee.  D2 is mixing it into her ice cream……which by the way is very, very good. 

Anyway, back to the topic at hand.  Whether it’s is the lack of sleep, stress and worry or a miraculous combination of Lorelai, Rory, coffee and ice cream, I’ve lost 8 lbs.  I’m not going to question it.  I’m going to embrace it. 

Got to go.  Another episode is starting and I can’t find my ice cream scoop.