Saturday, May 9, 2009

I MISS LUCY

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It’s been awhile since I’ve written a Lucy post. I can think of no better way to celebrate Mother’s Day here in SMBland than to talk about Lucy, my beloved mother who died a little over 5 years ago. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss her more and more. So many things have happened in our lives in the past five years and it breaks my heart that she couldn’t share them with us. I don’t know how this Heaven thing works but I believe there is one and I like to think that Lucy has box seats and is watching over us all.

Lucy was one of a kind. Everyone thought so. Everyone loved her. She was smart, beautiful, funny and took GOOFY to a whole new level. The goofiness is what I loved most about her.

Lucy was married for seventeen years to my siblings’ father before she married my dad. Daddy was eleven years younger than Lucy. The age difference was never noticeable until Lucy was in her 80s and got sick. She was always very young looking and could run circles around women many years her junior including me. She had so much energy.

My mother got a kick out of shocking people. I should mention that Lucy moved to our small town in Indiana when she married my father. I think it’s fair to say that many people just didn’t know what to make of her.

Lucy loved to tell people that when she got married, her husband was only 9 years old. Of course she was talking about when she married her first husband and saying that her second husband was nine. Sometimes she would explain, sometimes, she didn’t bother and would just leave them wondering. She also liked to say, “My husband was eleven years old when I had my first child.” You can imagine the reaction she would get. And she loved it.

God, I miss her.

If you missed my previous Lucy stories and would like to read them, they are linked below.

A Strange Telephone Conversation

I Love Lucy

A Roadtrip with Lucy

Lucyisms – A Language all her own

I’m Fine – Really Just Fine

Lucy – Mother Extraordinaire

Whether you’re celebrating Mother’s Day or you’re not……………….I wish you the very best day ever.

Hugs and kisses,

SMB

24 comments:

midlife slices said...

I wish I'd known her but I'm grateful to know the daughter she so obviously raised to be a treasure that I was lucky enough to find.

MUAH to you, my friend and happy mother's day.

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

She did a fine job on raising you ; -) I know she is up there proud of all of you and watching over you.

Midlife Jobhunter said...

Happy Mother's Day to you, SMB. Lucy sounds like she brought great life to those around her.

Blasé said...

While I'm up...

Your parents age situation is exactly identical to mine and SB. If we live long enough, I'll be willing and ready to take care of her if it turns out that way.

Oz Girl said...

As you can see, I can't sleep..... a quick comment here, and I am going to read your linked posts about Lucy tomorrow a.m. Oh wait a minute, it's already tomorrow a.m..... ACK.

I still have my mom, but it's been close to 3 years since we lost my dad and I think the same thoughts as you -- I got all teary just a few weeks ago as I thought how much he would have loved where I live now in KS. I wish I could have one of our famous family picnics here tomorrow, but alas, not possible even with the ones who are still on this beautiful earth.

Your mom sounds like a real firecracker. Daughters are usually closer to their moms, so my heart (and hugs) go out to you. I can't imagine not being able to talk to my mom several times a week.

But YOU are still a mom yourself, so Happy Mother's Day to you! :)

Auntie, aka Dog Girl said...

Hi SMB,
I just read all about Lucy. The story about her going to the hospice freaks me out. You endured what we all fear: Watching a slow and painful death of a parent.

And I agree w/ Oz Girl...your mom was a real fire cracker.
((hug))

Hit 40 said...

Very nice! Amusing tribute to a funny lady. Just what she deserved.

Too funny that she liked to shock people... so do I

namaste said...

OMG! i LOVED the lucy shows. i like your play on the actress' name and your mom's for these post.

this is a beautiful tribute. your mom sounds like she was a wonderful woman. i will have to come back later and read the other posts linked here.

yes, i'm f.i.n.e. most days as well.

happy mothers' day!

Mrs. K said...

Happy Mother's Day to you...sounds like there's a bit of Lucy in you for sure :)

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff... said...

Girl that was a lovely tribute to your Lucy!! I posted about my Mom as well today. She died in 1977 and I still miss her to this very day. It gets better with time, but it never totally goes away, you know?
Wishing you a Mother's Day filled with much love, joy and laughter and.......

Steady On
Reggie Girl

Beth said...

Your mother sounds amazing! No wonder you are so witty. You had Lucy raising you!

Happy Mother's Day!

Gaston Studio said...

Wow, with a mother like Lucy, you didn't need anyone else to make your day!

So glad you found solace at the beach and hope you're mending.

xoxo
Jane

Jan said...

Sometimes, when you write about Lucy, the only thing I can think is that our mothers would have been BFF if they'd ever met. SO much in common. I always think that I would love to have met her - the way you describe her, I feel like I have missed out on something wonderful by not knowing her myself.

And have a Happy Mother's Day yourself, hon. (((SMB)))

Beth Niquette said...

Your Mum sounds wonderful. She sounds like the Mom I want to be. How lovely to have had a mother such as Lucy. ((hugs))

No wonder you are the wonderful lady you are!

Happy Mother's Day to you and your wonderful Mother. I'm sure she must look down and feel proud.

LiLu said...

"My mother got a kick out of shocking people."

And she passed it on to her daughter ;-)

I think we all would have gotten along well. Happy Mama's Day, my love!

Wsprsweetly Of Cottages said...

I pray to God that my children talk about me just like that when I am gone!
Your mother watches every thing you do and thinks your are funny as hell..no doubt about it! I hope one day I get to meet her and join her in her ring side seat.
Happy Mother's Day SMB. I love you back!!
Mona

thyme said...

She must have been really something!

Fragrant Liar said...

I love Lucy. I wish I had known her. We would have had a lot in common. I always said, of my last husband, Where had he been all my life? Growing up. There are 16 years between us. And I do like to embarrass my daughters. Sorry, but I do. I think you are probably a whole lot like your mom, given that smart mouth of yours. :)

Happy Mom's Day. It's a great time to remember the ladies we've loved and lost.

JeanMac said...

What a nice tribute - happy mothers Day - mothers are missed forever because they were so loved!

Twenty Four At Heart said...

Hope you had a nice Mother's Day!

Smart Mouth Broad said...

Thanks, everyone, for your words of encouragement and love. Big Hugs to you all!

Love,
SMB

nothingfancy1 said...

I love reading your Lucy stories.

Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day. I always find them quite somber since Mom passed...I know exactly how you are feeling.

Love to you!

Lo said...

what a great way to remember your mom.... telling the world how amazing she was. i can't imagine losing my mom and i would rather go before her, being selfish and all. i'm sure lucy is out there, smiling away at how loving her daughter is.

smiles4u said...

Once again, another beautiful reminder of Lucy. I am glad for all the years you had with her. It sounds like you take after her quite abit with that smart mouth of yours and all....lol. And that's a good thing. Hugs, Lori